The Attack on Marriage from Within
First, marriage is the God-ordained, lifelong, covenantal union between a man and his wife. Most in the church are already aware of the silent attack on traditional marriage coming from political conversations and specific anti-religious groups. From the U.S. Supreme Court redefining marriage (defined in the Defense of Marriage Act as between “one man and one woman as husband and wife”), to Hollywood’s vexing normalization of divorcees and gay couples within the “modern family”, to the proliferation of pornography, and the educational argument to undermine the parents rights to raise and educate their children apart from the village – the sanctity of marriage is constantly criticized. And now, with transgenderism blurring the lines of masculinity and femininity (an outrage to feminists and homosexuals alike), even these God-designed identities are taking heat.
But an even greater enemy of marriage prowls for ways to exploit the relationship from within.
Stephanie and I have witnessed to many couples in the years we’ve been married – all self-proclaimed Christians – who have fought for their marriages in some way. Some have ended in divorce, others in remaining in their unhappy contractual obligation, and only a select few we’ve seen willing to put themselves down for their spouse and obtain true joy with one another. Currently, we have three couples who have confided in us their own current struggles to remain faithful and together, and they span the entire nation from Alaska to New England to Texas!
Myths vs Fact
Mainstream media will often report that 50% of American marriages end in divorce, but this is vastly inaccurate. In her book, “The Good News About Marriage: Debunking Discouraging Myths about Marriage and Divorce,” Harvard-trained researcher, Shaunti Feldhahn, detailed the conclusions from an eight-year study which revealed that the the divorce rate has never even come close to 50%. She estimated that it is closer to 31%. This is comparable to the divorce rate in America which, according to the CDC, was at 36.84% in 2016. This is down from the estimated 40% in 2000.
There’s a little math involved here, so bare with me:
According to the Wedding Report, 2.21 million weddings were officiated in 2015 and 2016. It’s hard to nail down just how many weddings officiated are for first-time marriages (as opposed to remarriages). But if Pew Research is correct, then 68.6-80% are first marriages and widows (154-179.6 million).
 We are not including remarriages that resulted in divorce, even if it had to do with unfaithfulness from one or both spouses because it still ended in divorce and still supports the premise that marriages are under attack from within.